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Resource: On What beliefs are your house built?

24 Jun


On what beliefs is your house built?

FOUNDATION: The house’s foundation is your foundation as a person.  List and label the values, beliefs and traditions that direct your life.  Do you put family above all else?  Do you think that being financially successful is paramount?

OUTER WALLS: The walls represent your supports.  Are you struggling to name supports?  Remember that supports can be people, places, and things.  Who have you interacted with in the last weeks?  What did you do and where did you go to feel better and find assistance?  Supports can also be professionals in your life.

THE ROOF: What gives you shelter?  Who protects you?  Like supports, these can be people or things.  Do you feel like your parents/family/friends encourage you unconditionally?  If so, include the on your roof.

THE DOOR: The door keeps things hidden and others out.  What things do you hide? Are you ashamed of things or do aspects of your past?  List these in the door.

FIRST/GROUND FLOOR: Behaviors you are trying to gain control over, or areas of your life you want to change.

SECOND FLOOR: Emotions you want to experience more often, more fully or in a more healthy way.

THIRD FLOOR: List all the things you are happy about or you want to feel happy about OR list the things you are grateful for and/or that you have right now.

FOURTH FLOOR/ATTIC: What would a life “worth living” look like for you?

CHIMNEY SMOKE: Ways you blow off steam.  Possible coping tools.  Things you do to get your mind off things.

BILLBOARD: Things you are proud of and want others to see.

From my Facebook Page

13 Dec

I found this link from buzzfeed and really liked the idea.  Apparently buzzfeed has decided it is mental health  week or something, so they are rolling out a lot of posts related to different mental health conditions.  This is a link about cards for those who experience depression.  Here is the link to check them all out.  Here is the link to my Facebook Blog Page which has this link and others.

When go-to comforts are no help at all:

When they're afraid that their loved ones will bail:



DBT Distress Tolerance: Self Soothing with 5 senses

11 Dec

self soothe


DBT Distress Tolerance ACCEPTS Worksheet

11 Dec

Accepts 3

DBT Distress Tolerance Activities Worksheet

11 Dec

Includes: Body Moving activities, relaxing activities, emotional expression activities, socializing activities, in the moment activities, sensation focused activities, and though challenge activities.



DBT Distress Tolerance: Accepts Worksheet

11 Dec



Examples from mine:

Activities: Smash book, Blogging, Candy crush, Play with Gibson, Homework, shopping.

Contributions: Making cards, My sister’s awesome book

Choices: Blogging, not ruminating, getting out of the house, texting 20 somethings friend, put it aside until appointment with case manager.

Positive Emotions: Half smiles, Venting/relief, contentment, pride

Push Away: Visualize with putting stuff in box and setting aside.

Thoughts: Song Lyrics

Sensations: Bath, candles, massage, having ice cream, baking

DBT Distress Tolerance: ACCEPTS- Contributions

11 Dec

With contributing:

Contribute to something; do volunteer work, give something to someone else, make something nice for someone, do a surprising, thoughtful thing.


I make homemade cards for people and usually have some thoughtful project going on for someone else.

Anxiety/Fear Observing and Describing Emotions Worksheet

7 Dec


Observing and Describing Emotions

Name: __Marci__________________         Date:___12/6/15___________

Primary Emotions: ____Anxiety/fear____________________  Intensity (0-100)_85

Prompting Event (for emotion, who, what, where, when): Seemed to come out of nowhere.  When I got into my car after studying with 20 somethings friend.  Maybe because I didn’t study as long as I had planned to.  I didn’t say something I was planning on saying.  And I don’t feel very comfortable about the quiz or presentation tomorrow.

Interpretation (beliefs, assumptions, and appraisals on the situation) You’re a failure.  You never end up doing what you plan to. You’re going to screw up this quiz and presentation.  Not going to get an A in Linguistics.  Look like a fool.  Can’t express yourself in relationships.

Body changes and sensing: Stomach hurting, dry mouth, tingling feeling in head

Body Language (facial expression, posture, gestures): Nothing really

Action Urges (what did I feel like doing, what did I want to say):


Self harm.  Knock myself out w/meds.  Try to get someone to reassure me

What I said or did in the situation: Tell myself it’s okay.  Read an article to distract.  Remember my agreements and expectations.  Going to look to wellness book for comfort.  Try to be nice to myself.

After effects (secondary emotions, memories, thoughts, state of mind, behavior):  Guilt.  More anxiety/fear now about transferring.  Remembering arguement a couple weeks ago.  Remembering times in the past I had been soothes and longing for that.

Function of emotion: ___???_____________________________________________________

Other possible interpretations: Worry is normal but it’s not the end of the world.  “Your reality is the same, it’s just your persception that’s changed.  It can change back.  He’s not going to abandon you and neither am I.”-Case Manager

New Intensity (0-100) _75__

Intensity after reading Wellness Book (0-100)  40


Observing and Describing Emotions

Name: ______________________________         Date:_______________________

Primary Emotions: ____________________________________  Intensity (0-100)______

Prompting Event (for emotion, who, what, where, when): __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Interpretation (beliefs, assumptions, and appraisals on the situation) _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Body changes and sensing: ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Body Language (facial expression, posture, gestures):


Action Urges (what did I feel like doing, what did I want to say):


What I said or did in the situation: __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

After effects (secondary emotions, memories, thoughts, state of mind, behavior):  __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Function of emotion: ____________________________________________________________

Other possible interpretations: __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________


New Intensity (0-100) _______

Day 396

16 Nov

Helping a person who is suicidal.


Everyone can help prevent suicides because:

  • About 80% of the time people who kill themselves have given definite signals or talked about suicide
  • Most suicidal people don’t really want to die – they just want their pain to end

So, all one needs to know is:

  • How to identify someone at high risk (Warning signs)
  • What to do. (Intervention)

Warning Signs:

  • Observable signs of serious depression
    • Unrelenting low mood
    • Pessimism
    • Hopelessness
    • Desperation
    • Anxiety, psychic pain, inner tension
    • Withdrawal
    • Sleep problems
  • Increased alcohol and/or other drug use
  • Recent impulsiveness and taking unnecessary risks
  • Threatening suicide or expressing strong wish to die
  • Making a plan
    • Giving away prized possessions
    • Purchasing a firearm
    • Obtaining other means of killing oneself
  • Unexpected rage or anger

DSM – V – Suicide Assessment Dimension

High level of concern:

1.Living alone, chronic severe pain, or recent (within 3 months) significant loss

2.Recent psychiatric admission/discharge or first diagnosis…

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Invalidation & Emotional Abuse

16 Nov


Invalidation is a form of subtle emotional abuse, often occurring in the childhoods of person’s with Borderline Personality Disorder.