Archive | November, 2017

Socialness or lack there of… and an update

29 Nov

So I’ve mentioned in prior blogs my issues with social situations and how I don’t have the best social skills.  I used to be diagnosed with social anxiety and I just refused to be involved with anything unless someone I knew was there with me, and most times I just clung to them and stayed quiet.  Even though I venture out a little more, I’m still pretty awkward and have few “friends.”  I know some people and I think sometimes I’m better at holding a conversation, but it’s a lot of prep and practicing and obsessing before I try to initiate and normally people don’t just talk to me. (at least at school)  So a couple years ago I got flagged for an Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) assessment because of my sensory processing disorder and a few other things that fit on the spectrum such as my problems with balance, having one friend only and always being more by myself, being really dependent and not where I should be age wise (just moving out at 33 and learning to cook and live independently), bad eye contact, sickness as kid.  And I think that was it.  Anyways the ASD evaluation after a number of months said no because my mom did an questionnaire and apparently I was a normal baby.  I’m not so sure, also I don’t trust my mom.  But I’ll let it go because at this point in my life there is nothing they can really do for me other than giving me a label.  I’m trying to still learn stuff though and do behavioral stuff to function with less problems.  I’ve been trying new foods, where before I’d only eat at like 5 different restaurants and 5 things.  I’ve gotten better at showering, even though I’m not to soaping yet.  I haven’t really started on the washing hands.  I don’t know if there is anything I can do with my balance issues.  Eye contact is still hard, I guess I’m trying and with social situations but I feel like I’m getting no where.  Everything seems false.

As for the general update I’m trying not to worry to much about the future and the whole life worth living.  So I won’t get suicidal.  I’m trying to focus on now and what I can do, regardless of how things go with family and finances.

I still feel very alone.

18 Nov

The more I think. The more hopeless and apathetic I get. I know apathetic is a lack of feeling but I mean hopeless as a thought. It’s getting worse. I don’t want to end up in the hospital because of effects it’ll have on transitioning. Of course not being alive could have effects too. I’m not that desperate… yet.

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16 Nov

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16 Nov

I’m starting to struggle again.  It started with a panic attack Thursday night and the “hangover” effects and depression that have continued since.  I’ve been trying to sleep (mostly) or distract when I have to stay awake, or I get panicky, overwhelmed and suicidal.  It mostly has to do with the future and it’s pretty much paralyzing me in the present which is effecting my future.  I’m not sure about grad school, I have a real hard time with motivation and doing work alone.  I love the academics but can’t self-motivate or hold myself accountable very well.  Along with that is that I have signed up to take the GRE the first weekend in December and have done no studying even though I did horrible on the practice test.  I know I need to do it, but for some reason I can’t force myself to sit down and do it.  So maybe I can’t continue in school.  Am I able to work now?  I’ve done it once and the result to my mental health was detrimental.  What would I do?

I’ve finally got the okay to come out to my other family members from my mom.  She still doesn’t think it’s a good idea.  Well I’m not looking forward to it either, but I need to tell my dad and lil sis so I can be out completely and not worry about someone telling them before I do, and so I can make changes I want.  I plan on doing it after the holidays.  That’s causing some anxiety too.

I went to a name change workshop Monday, on how to legally change my name.  They walked me through it and helped me fill out the forms.  Now they are ready when I’m ready to file.

Since not doing well, I haven’t been to most my classes and things for college, like an academic advising appointment.  I spend most my time in my room in bed, usually sleeping but sometimes awake just worrying.  I don’t know what to do to get out of this episode.

I feel like after typing this just going to bed and not doing more schoolwork and trying to jam it in tomorrow or just hope for the best for the quiz. It’s 7pm.

Since I’m Avoiding Homework

2 Nov

25 Get to Know Me Questionss

1. What is your middle name?:

New one to be: James

2. What was your favorite subject at school?

Math- pre college.  Languages-college

3. What is your favorite drink?:

Pumpkin Spice Latte or Red Bull

4. What is your favorite song at the moment?

what about us by pink

5. What is your favorite food?: 

Anything sweet

6. What is the last thing you bought?

minimal groceries

7. Favorite book of all time?

hitchhikers guide to the galaxy

8. Favorite Color?:

Blue

9. Do you have any pets?:

No

10. Favorite Perfume?

None.  Have SPD, smells really bother me

11. Favorite Holiday?:

Halloween, then daylight savings time ending 😉

12. Are you married?

No

13. Have you ever been out of the country, if so how many times?:

Mexico, Canada, Australia, Caymen Islands

14. Do you speak any other language?

Spanish, Italian, American Sign Language, French, and a little bit of Ancient Greek

15. How many siblings do you have?:

Two sisters

16. What is your favorite shop?

Michaels

17. Favorite restaurant?

Thai Chili

18. When was the last time you cried?

About a week ago

19. Favorite Blog?:

I have a few

20. Favorite Movie?

Drop Dead Fred and Lilo and Stitch

21. Favorite TV shows?

Shameless

22. PC or Mac?:

Mac

23. What phone do you have?

I have an iphone six

24. How tall are you?

5′ 6″

25. Can you cook?

Somethings