I use to be really clingy. I don’t really attach to many people, so when I do it’s like I hold on for dear life. Along with that BPD fear of rejection or abandonment. My best friend needs alone time and has other time he spends with other friends or classmates and it use to really trigger me. I’m much better about it now. Before it would sometimes set off the voices and me into an emotional tirade to where I’d be on the edge of going to the hospital or I’d be self medicating, since I wasn’t self harming anymore.
I think maybe DBT helped a little, but mostly just growing up and realizing that you can’t always have someone 24/7. Trying not to dwell on it when he has plans with other people or just needs his alone time. Using that time to do stuff with my sister or other friends, or as some of my alone time.
Anyways I’m really proud of myself in this area, because when you cling too much you annoy people and push them away.