I also have splitting occurring within my views of myself. I alternate thinking I’m evil and all bad to someone who tries real hard and is the nicest person. When in either state it becomes impossible to reconcile the two. I’m getting better at splitting with others but need to work on myself, thanks for the reminder.
One of the DSM’s criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder is “a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation”.
This experience is also referred to as ‘splitting’, and is something I relate to and struggle with massively.
Splitting causes Borderlines to veer between two opposing extremes when it comes to interpersonal relationships, and can also present in how we perceive ourselves. At one time, feelings of intense joy, love and attachment towards a certain person will be evoked. At other times, this will flip to feelings of extreme hate, anger and other negative emotions, as well as an overwhelming urge to reject that same person.
Splitting can be seen as a defence mechanism, triggered by the Borderline’s super sensitive alarm system, detecting even the smallest of threats or reassurances when they arise. However, the tiniest hint from another such as a…
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