Trying to be mature- DBT Skills

22 Jul

It’s been a rough past couple of days.  I’m out of the heightened suicdality and voices but still feeling down and extremely vulnerable.  Me and 20 somethings friend are suppose to go on a road trip to San Diego to check out the school he is thinking about transferring to.  This is hard in the first place but I’m trying to be supportive.  We were also going to visit a friend from group who moved to LA.  Now this friend is driving with us and staying pretty much the whole time, except for the ride back.  I’m super bummed.  The borderline in me just says to cancel even going, that he has this friend and he doesn’t need me.  The other urge is to get him to not let this extra friend come.  I’m trying to be mature and use by DBT skills.  Unfortunately we haven’t started interpersonal effectiveness yet so all I have is emotion regulation and distress tolerance.  I’m trying opposite action and just trying to stay calm and not get angry.  I’m also going to fill out an observe/describe sheet to see if I can get my hurt feelings to go down in intensity.  Sometimes I want to revert to an earlier me, because it is so much easier.  At least I kinda said my feelings.

2 Responses to “Trying to be mature- DBT Skills”

  1. manyofus1980 July 25, 2015 at 7:49 AM #

    You let him know how you felt, thats the mature thing to do. Using DBT skills is good too though. XX

    • mm172001 July 28, 2015 at 11:18 AM #

      It’s hard expressing how I feel, and not even sure how it went over.

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