#LoveWins

26 Jun

I was surprised to hear about the Supreme Court decision this morning. I don’t keep much up on the news because it’s so triggering. Only after a few friends from group told me about it, did it finally sunk in. 

Marriage equality for me is about “normalizing” things. It’s also a chance for everyone that supports it to change their Facebook profile pic to a cooler rainbow striped version.  I was surprised by the number of Fb friends that changed their pic. I know some did it cuz it’s trendy. But to me it’s just great that  supporting gay marriage is trendy. 

I had a real hard time coming to terms with my sexuality. And while I am out, I don’t make it a point to refer to myself as gay. Actually I usually try not to mention in but will admit to it if it comes up. I was raised in a family and society where strong negative connotation and words like “admit” still have a hold on me. Like I’ve committed some kind of crime. 

I’m not sure if I want to get married, but I should have the right to, if that’s what I chose. The best thing for me about this decision is the acceptance from the non-LGBT community. Not getting married but being able to say girlfriend or wife with normalcy and less fear of being judged. 

  

5 Responses to “#LoveWins”

  1. manyofus1980 June 26, 2015 at 10:23 PM #

    Yes, I agree. in ireland we have marriage equality, it was just recently passed. To my delight. I’m glad the supreme court in the USA is agreeing too. XX

  2. the Prodigal Orphan June 27, 2015 at 8:17 AM #

    You know better than I that the fight is not over just because the good guys landed a solid punch.
    The thing you said that hit me the most was “words like ‘admit’ still have a hold on me.’
    “Like I’ve committed some kind of crime.”
    Had never thought of that very obvious yet unthinkable connotation.
    To admit is, in a way, to acknowledge, and when you say “I had a real hard time coming to terms with my sexuality”, that process was imperative to find peace within yourself.
    I would imagine that could be more difficult than sharing your realization with even those you care about.
    Fuck Scalia.
    Once you have found that peace, there is nobody who has the right to take that away.
    And it really shouldn’t be about someone else granting it to you.
    The acknowledgment that the Court’s decision reached yesterday might not take things all the way to “equality”. I think it’s safe to say we’ve at least passed “similarity”.
    Plessy v. Ferguson, 163 U.S. 537, in 1896: “separate but equal”.
    Somewhat like that. Kinda / sorta but not exactly that.
    But it is a big step, one that needs to increase the momentum the Community has built.
    You have more weight behind you now.
    To borrow a phrase ..
    you will overcome.

    • mm172001 June 27, 2015 at 10:41 AM #

      I know what you mean about it not being true equality. But like you said it is a solid punch and one I’m thankful for. It will take awhile and may never happen that true equality

  3. Andi June 27, 2015 at 8:53 AM #

    Trendy or not, it’s still pretty cool to see those rainbows all over social media. That is progress in action right there! 🙂

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