RESOURCE: DBT Ways to describe emotions- Sadness

30 May

Often times it is difficult to accurately articulate exactly what we are feeling.  Sometimes emotions mix or one will lead to another very quickly.  These lists are to help you identify clearer the description of sadness, prompting events, interpretations that prompt it, experiencing the emotion, expressing and acting on it as well as the after effects of it.  The bolded ones are things I really relate to.

Sadness Words:

  • Sadness
  • Agony
  • Alienation
  • Anguish
  • Crushed
  • Defeated
  • Dejection
  • Depression
  • Despair
  • Disappointment
  • Discontentment
  • Dismay
  • Displeasure
  • Distraught
  • Gloom
  • Glumness
  • Grief
  • Homesickness
  • Hopelessness
  • Hurt
  • Insecurity
  • Isolation
  • Loneliness
  • Melancholy
  • Misery
  • Neglect
  • Pity
  • Rejection
  • Sorrow
  • Suffering
  • Unhappiness
  • Woe

Prompting events for feeling sadness:

  • Things turn out badly
  • Getting what you don’t want
  • Not getting what you want and believe you need in life; thinking about what you have not gotten that you wanted or needed.
  • Not getting what you’ve worked for.
  • Things being worse than you expected
  • The death of someone you love, thinking about the deaths of people you love.
  • Losing a relationship, thinking about losses.
  • Being separated from someone you care for or value; thinking about how much you miss someone
  • Being rejected or excluded.
  • Being disapproved of or disliked; not being valued by people you care about.
  • Discovering that you are powerless or helpless.
  • Being with someone else who is sad, hurt, or in pain
  • Reading about other people’s problems or troubles in the world.

Interpretations that prompt feelings of sadness:

  • Believing that a separation from someone will last for a long time or will never end
  • Believing that you are worthless or not valuable
  • Believing that you will not get what you want or need in your life.
  • Hopeless beliefs

Experiencing the emotion of sadness:

  • Feeling tired, run-down, or low in energy
  • Feeling lethargic, listless; wanting to stay in bed all day
  • Feeling as if nothing is pleasurable anymore
  • Feeling a pain or hollowness in your chest or gut
  • Feeling empty
  • Crying, tears, whimpering
  • Feeling as if you can’t stop trying; feeling that if you ever start crying you will never be able to stop.
  • Difficulty swallowing
  • Breathlessness
  • Dizziness

Expressing and acting on sadness:

  • Frowning, not smiling
  • Eyes drooping
  • Sitting or lying around; being inactive
  • Making slow, shuffling movements
  • A slumped, drooping posture
  • Withdrawing from social contact
  • Talking a little or not at all
  • Using a low, quiet, slow, or monotonous voice
  • Saying sad things
  • Giving up and no longer trying to improve.
  • Moping, brooding, or acting moody
  • Talking to someone about sadness

After-effects of sadness:

  • Feeling irritable, touchy, or grouchy
  • Having a negative outlook; thinking only about the negative side of things
  • Blaming or criticizing yourself
  • Remembering or imagining other times you were sad or other losses.
  • Hopeless Attitude
  • Not being able to remember happy things
  • Fainting spells
  • Nightmares
  • Insomnia
  • Appetite disturbance, indigestion
  • Yearning and searching for the thing lost
  • Depersonalization, dissociative experiences, numbness, or shock
  • Anger, shame, fear, or other negative emotions

Also in this series:

Ways to describe emotions- Anger

One Response to “RESOURCE: DBT Ways to describe emotions- Sadness”

  1. Joyce June 5, 2015 at 7:02 PM #

    Reblogged this on MAKE BPD STIGMA-FREE!.

I'l love to hear your thoughts

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: