Attachment theory in relation to the 6 colors of love

15 May

Secure (Eros)

Insecure. 

  • Ambivalent/anxious (mania)- clingy, needy, needs were not met in a timely manner 
  • Avoidant (Ludus) the parent doesn’t like me, pretend to be invisible, no need for intimacy or commitment. 

I know I don’t have a secure attachment style and I alternate between ambivalent and avoidant. Usually ambivalent until I get hurt or feel hurt and then shut down and become avoidant. Interestingly I think my parents both: didn’t meet my needs in a timely manner (or at all) and I thought they didn’t like me. I guess it’s not surprising I alternate between the two insecure forms of attachment. 

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