Resource: DBT Willingness over Willfulness

18 Mar

cultivate a willing response to each situation. 

  • Willingness is doing just what is needed. Focusing on effectiveness. It is tolerating this moment. It is saying “ok, I’m going to work with this the best I can.”
  • Willingness is listening very carefully to your wise mind, acting from your inner self and long term interests, remembering what you are trying to do differently on your life now and acting in accord with that. 

Replace willfulness with willingness 

  • Willfulness is sitting on your hands when action is needed, refusing to make changes that are needed. 
  • Willfulness is giving up
  • Willfulness is the opposite of doing what works. 
  • Willfulness is trying to fix every situation, even those that call for acceptance. 
  • Willfulness is refusing to tolerate the moment. 

7 Responses to “Resource: DBT Willingness over Willfulness”

  1. manyofus1980 March 18, 2015 at 3:54 PM #

    Great info marcie thanks xx

  2. manyofus1980 March 18, 2015 at 3:54 PM #

    Reblogged this on Many of us.

  3. kat March 18, 2015 at 6:47 PM #

    Reblogged this on Me: Finding the Missing Pieces and commented:
    if i could only remember these things! thanks, this is great.

  4. jennydevildoll March 18, 2015 at 7:32 PM #

    I didn’t know that was willfulness. I thought willful people had a strong will is all.

    • mm172001 March 19, 2015 at 9:22 PM #

      In DBT it is essentially stubornness

  5. Andi March 22, 2015 at 6:39 PM #

    This is the hardest one for us.

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